Sunday, November 11, 2012

Six

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Happy anniversary, dear husband. Six years! Go, us.

So, I have a confession. I have a love/hate relationship with these yearly notes. I love them because they make me sit and think about us, and because it gives me an excuse to flip through our wedding photos, which is such a nice treat. What I dislike is coming up with something to write that sounds genuine and isn't an exact repeat of the previous year. Sure, I could stop writing these. I mean, you're not exactly clamoring for them, nor are the 10 people who read this blog, but you know me. I like traditions. And once I start one, I stick with it. So an anniversary letter you shall get. Every year. FOR-EV-ER.

So, back to what to write that sounds genuine. But still nice. Because what is genuine and true is that marriage is hard sometimes. Even when you have a good person by your side, healthy kids, a sweet dog, a supportive family, a home and good jobs, it's still hard. Because you're in this with another person, which means you have to navigate all of the things, good and bad, that come with the kids, the dog, the family, the home and the jobs. And you have to do it together, making sure that you're on the same page, everyone is in agreement and everyone is happy. So there are arguments, there are lengthy discussions about seemingly mundane matters and there are curt texts that read "DISHWASHER" on the days someone forgets to unload the dishwasher.

But the good part about the hard stuff is that it makes you realize how great the person next to you is. How they are always looking out for you, taking your feelings, wishes and concerns into consideration. How they take the time to do little extra things that make each other happy. And that, I think, is where we really have a lock on this marriage thing. Love and grand gestures are swell, but consideration is key. Now that is something I can get behind.

And so, I love you, you thoughtful, considerate fool who empties the dishwasher and recycling bin 99.5% of the time without being asked. You are good. We are good. And that makes the kids, the dog, the family, the house and the jobs good as well. We certainly couldn't do this without one another. And this is pretty great.

1 comment:

  1. That is a damn good anniversary letter. Bravo!

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